Instead of “OMG! what will they think of me!?” try, “What will help the writing?”

OMG's bark is worse than its bite

None of us can completely separate our feelings about our “self” when judgments are made about our writing. But perhaps we can move in that direction just enough to prevent criticism and rejection from precipitating OMG! reactions that paralyze our writing muscles.

One way to do this is to ask the question, “What will help the writing?” You will benefit more if your mind is focused on that question rather than on whether or not you are an imposter or an idiot or stupid or worthless or boring or magnificent. After all, life is a mystery—we don’t really know what is going on, and all the time we spend protecting, defending, rationalizing, loathing, and lauding our sense of self is, at the end of the day, a pointless exercise in generating pain.

Maybe it would be better to spend what precious little time we have on the planet doing anything else instead of that. Of course, this is easier said than done, but you can always direct at least some tiny bit of effort toward doing something else. Something that will leave you with a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction. Something that has the potential to make a contribution. Something like writing.

By keeping your primary focus on how to make your writing better, rather than on how the snarling hounds of criticism and rejection make you feel, you also cultivate a degree of openness and tolerance for receiving important feedback that is not complimentary. It is essential for your growth and development as a writer to be able to take in such information without wilting completely.

The perceptive minds of others offer a storehouse of information, and you can benefit from knowing what they think is good, or not so good, about your work. Even some nasty, ill-tempered remarks will potentially be useful to you if they contain a grain of truth. You will be more willing and less threatened to hear tough but true words about your work if you believe those words will help you write better. Even if they come from the mouth of a jerk.

The fears and resentments we experience in the process of placing our pages in front of the public are our own. These feelings can be triggered by imagined feedback or by our actual interactions with others, but they are our own feelings, and they can stop the writing.

The good news is that, just like training barking dogs, we can learn to tame our OMGs so they don’t stop the flow of words.

About David Rasch

Author, psychologist, speaker, teacher, consultant, workshop leader
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One Response to Instead of “OMG! what will they think of me!?” try, “What will help the writing?”

  1. Fakewomen says:

    My dog barks at rocks
    Is this a good thing? Or should I squash his creativity ?

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