Feeling dread without being stopped dead

One of the anti-writing mind-states I am susceptible to is dread, which theMerriam Webster dictionary defines thusly:  “to feel extreme reluctance to meet or face.” Perhaps you have felt this about writing too.

It is a curious thing to feel a profound sense of dread when the anticipated task is just writing some words. I mean, how hard can it be? I could understand it better if I was anticipating say, a waterboard interrogation in Guantanamo, or if I was put in restraints and forced to listen to The Carpenters Greatest Hits album in its entirety….but dread about writing? What’s up with that?

I am not an evolutionary biologist, but I am guessing that writing may, at times, make us tap into a set of rather primitive survival programs encoded in our reptilian brain that have to do with recognizing danger and running for our lives. My personal experience is that it is during the anticipation of writing when these reactions are  most pronounced. The horror is often reduced if we find a way to become engaged in the writing process and handle the challenges one by one.

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Raised by writers…curse or blessing?

On the face of it, you’d think that growing up in a household populated by writers would be a real benefit for a young, developing writer. I’ve seen this to be true, not so true, and both.

The benefits of having writing parents include exposure to more reading and discussing of books than occurs in other homes. A love and talent for expressing the written word gets into the blood from an early age. In addition, if a child’s primary role models are leading a life that includes writing, the child learns that this is a valid direction in life to consider.

The darker possibilities of having writer parent(s) is that they may have blocks and problems with their writing that generate negative patterns and associations with writing. Perhaps they also focus on their work so much they ignore basic parenting duties like feeding their children. They may also have too much invested in the child’s writing, and be overly involved or judgmental.

Another brutal reality is that if a parent’s writing career has been less than stellar, they may not truly want their offspring to enjoy literary success, and will communicate this directly or indirectly.

None of us escape childhood without a few or several emotional issues to contend with in adult life, and these issues may intersect with the writing process. If things are not going well with your writing, you may have to look at the beliefs and feelings about writing that you carry. If you grew up with family members who wrote, do some reflection on their writing process, and how they communicated to you about writing. There might be something useful to understand there.

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Playing solitaire vs. doing some writing

Of all the possible diversionary activities one could engage in to avoid writing, why do so many people choose mind-numbing, pointless games like solitaire? Solitaire and writing are both lonely pursuits, so maybe they attract the same personality types. I’m of the ilk that would happily immerse myself into the most onerous writing assignment to avoid playing a game like solitaire. Each to his or her own.

Maybe I answered my own question with the term “mind-numbing.” Are you more likely to feel sharp pangs of guilt if you do something fun like eating a tub of guacamole and watching a movie? I know that plenty of people do this when they could be writing as well, but I believe the solitaire players must have a good reason for their approach too.

My hunch is that the trance-like dissociation that solitaire provides gives a sense of relief from the feelings that the writing generates. Just enough focus to occupy a brain lobe or two and hypnotize the player into an episode of several stress-free minutes during which consciousness of the writing task fades into obscure nether-regions of the psyche.

If solitaire is your preferred mode of writing avoidance, try playing it after you’ve written rather than before, and see if you spend as much time at it.

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Young Will has the ‘lost my muse blues”

Shakespeare in Love is another good writer’s block movie. Young Will, as played by Joseph Fiennes, starts out the movie with no inspiration, a fickle girlfriend/muse, and plenty of pressure from the theater owner who depends on Shakespeare’s plays to pay the bills.

To top it off, during his session with an Elizabethan shrink it is revealed that his sexual functioning has suffered recently as well. Fortunately, a cross-dressing Gwyneth Paltrow appears and inspires enthusiasm on both the literary and romantic fronts. The play gets written and the show goes on.

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Negative Thinking and Writing Blocks

Debilitating thoughts that plague writers (e.g., “I have no talent,” “I will fail if I attempt this,” or “I am not a writer”) are generally exaggerations and distortions of the truth that have gained too much authority and power due to their endless internal repetition. They are a form of self-inflicted brainwashing in which the struggling writer is both the terrorist and the terrorized.

Dragging these thoughts into the clear light of day and examining them more objectively is one method of freeing yourself from being bullied and controlled by them. They are mental habits we have learned, not immutable  “Truths.” They are also temporary experiences. Sometimes all we have to do is wait them out and they will go away.

If you become more aware of the mental processes connected with your blocks, you will at least have a fighting chance of escaping their control. There are some things you can do to alter your inner experience.

Start by identifying your own particular set of thoughts and feelings about writing. The self-assessments presented in The Blocked Writer’s Book of the Dead should help with this. Most of us have a handful of  negative thought patterns that recur consistently. Try to hear them and make a list. The most common problematic thoughts generate the emotions of fear,  resentment, hopelessness, or overwhelm. Look for these.

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Satan lurks where the Internet perks

Satan tempting a writer to check his Facebook page

The keyboard and screen have been a huge advance and timesaver for writers. The ease of editing, the immediate access to online information and research, the speed of submitting and communicating, all contribute to making our literary lives flow better. And yet, Satan lurks where the Internet perks.

The opportunity to careen off, away from your writing, into any one of an infinite number of beguiling non-productive online expeditions beckons at your fingertips. These off-task cyber distractions may feel more immediately gratifying than your writing project does, and they will call to you sweetly, entreating you to pause in your travails and spend “just a few moments” with them.

Powerful and devious cyber demons like Email, Facebook, Twitter, texting, games and the like must be tamed. These omnipresent time sinks are here to stay and you have to keep them in their place if you are intent on writing.

If you find yourself deeply absorbed in your email correspondences during your writing time, you might rationalize by saying “At least I’m writing!”  Sorry, but actually, you are not. You are avoiding your more important writing.

Helpful rules you can adopt are “Write First” or “Do the Harder Thing First.” Make your other online activities contingent upon having done a prescribed amount of writing each day. If given the choice between online shopping versus writing your book, do the book work first. If you start with the shopping, the odds that you will get back Continue reading

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Is graphorrhea a type of writer’s block?

Michael Douglas has a messy case of graphorrhea in the movie Wonder Boys

Graphorrea (extreme wordiness in writing) would appear to be the antithesis of the constipation known as writer’s block. It’s not, however, if the geyser of words spewing forth does not move you closer toward the completion of your project. You can hide out in graphorrea and convince even yourself that you are doing your job as a writer.

There is a good scene in Wonder Boys when a college student, Katie Holmes, confronts her professor, Michael Douglas, about the excessive wordiness and lack of editorial decision making in his novel in progress. Michael has been in a tailspin after the resounding success of his first novel, and the crippling anxiety he feels about trying to write a worthy second book is expressed by a host of self-sabotaging behaviors and graphorrea.

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